きらっくです。
あなたは、じぶんの人生で”つらい”と感じること、ありますか？
わたしは、何度もありました。
しごとをしていた時、命を絶とうと考えていたこともあります。
でもわたしは、運が良かった。
じぶんのつかう言葉によって、じぶんはつくられていくことに気づいたからです。
そこで今回は、つらい、苦しい経験をしているひとだけでなく、これからなにかを成しとげようとしているひとにも大切なおはなしです。
それでは、最後までよろしくお願いします。
結論
生活のなかでつかっている言葉を、ポジティブに変える
じぶんいじめをやめる
あなたは、だれかをいじめたことありますか？
きっと「いじめたことは無い」と答えると思います。
しかし、あなた自信を”だれかのひとり”と考えれば、いじめたことは無いと言えますか？
わたしは、だれかをいじめたことは無いです。
でも、じぶんのことは何度もいじめてきました。
これからはなすこの考えを知ると、あなたもどこかでじぶんをいじめているとわかるでしょう。
さて一体、じぶんをいじめるとはどういうことなのかを詳しくおはなしします。
じぶんいじめとは？
あなたはじぶんをいじめることを、どんな風にイメージしますか？
たとえば３つ、例をあげます。
- ネガティブな言葉をじぶんにかける・だれかにかけられる
- 自傷行為をする
- じぶんの心を殺してしまう
1つ目は、ネガティブな言葉をだれかにかけられたり、じぶんから言います。
「じぶんには無理」とか「お前にはできない」とだれかにネガティブなことを言われる。
2つ目に、ポジティブなことを考えられなくなり、生きる希望をなくし自傷行為をはじめます。
ほとんどは、肉体的なことが多いでしょう。
わたしの場合は、お酒を朝から飲み続けていました。
アルコールに依存することで、自我を保っていたのです。
3つ目は、じぶんの心を追い詰め、心を殺してしまうことです。
生きることに絶望し、なにに対しても動じなくなります。
ポジティブなことを考えられなくなり、心はすべてを拒否し、じぶんを守っているのです。
間接的にだれかをいじめている
じぶんをいじめていると、間接的にだれかをいじめています。
もしイライラしていれば、だれかに優しくすることは、難しくなるでしょう。
じぶんに優しくできないのに、だれかに優しくすることは難しいからです。
わたしから伝えたいこと。
”じぶんの心の声を無視しないで欲しい”
あなたがだれかに嫌なことをされたり、言われたときに「しかたない」と気持ちを抑えてしまう。
また、ネガティブな言葉を何度も口にしているかもしれない。
どうなると思いますか？
じぶんの心の声を無視していると、神経や内臓をいじめて健康を損ないます。
なんでも「嫌だ」というのは無理です。
でも、じぶんの心の声を無視したり、抑え続けるのはやめてください。
つかう言葉をポジティブにする
じぶんいじめや、間接的ないじめにならないようにどうしたらいいでしょうか。
わたしの考えは、じぶんにかける言葉や生活のなかでつかう言葉を、ポジティブな言葉にすることです。
具体的に伝えると、「運がいい」「ラッキー」という言葉です。
この言葉は、魔法の言葉”マジックワード”だと思います。
わたしはマジックワードをつかうようになってから、ポジティブになりました。
いまでは口癖になり、じぶんにも身近なひとにもつかうようになってます。
ネガティブなことがあったときこそ、チャンスです。
とりあえず、「ラッキー」と言ってみてください。
脳はだまされ、ネガティブになりすぎてしまうことを、防いでくれます。
ゲームだと思い、1週間ラッキーなことを探し、ラッキーと言ってください。
じぶんを親友と思え
あなたに親友はいますか？
親友でなく、大切なひとでもいいです。
2次元でも、3次元でもいいです。
とにかくだれかを、思い浮かべてください。
思い浮かべたら、そのひとに対して「気持ち悪い」と心の底から言えますか？
言えないですよね。
あなた以外のひとは、思い浮かべたひとについて、文句や意見を言うと思います。
でもあなたは言いませんよね。
むしろ言った相手に、怒りを感じると思います。
では、いま思い浮かべたひとを、じぶんだとしたらどうですか？
つまり、じぶんを大切な親友だと思えば傷つける言葉は言わないはずです。
じぶんを大切にできるなら、だれかのことも大切にできるでしょう。
あなたもだれかを助けられる
ポジティブ思考になると、あなたはだれかを助ける力を得ます。
「つらい」「苦しい」という言葉に反応するはずです。
なぜなら、あなたは相手のつらいという気持ちを知っているからです。
また知っているからこそ、気づかうこともできます。
ポジティブ思考によって、相手の言葉に反応し、気づかうことで助けることもできるのです。
ただし、いきすぎた気づかいは、ありがた迷惑。
つらそうなひとがいたら、声をかけるだけでもいいのです。
だれかを助けることは、じぶんを助けることにもつながっています。
まとめ
じぶんいじめをしないために
- つかう言葉をポジティブにする
- じぶんを親友だと思う
- だれかを助ける
だれかを助けられるようになることは、おおげさなことではありません。
またなにかを成し遂げようとしているひとも、あてはまります。
あなたの人生をよりよいものにするために、そしてじぶんを助けるためにも大切です。
まずは、生活のなかでつかっている言葉を、ポジティブな言葉に変えましょう。
マジックワード”運がいい”や”ラッキー”と言うようになり、わたしの人生は変わりました。
あなたもわたしも、毎日ラッキーなことに出会っていますよ。
最後までお読みいただきありがとうございます。
きょうもわたしはあなたと出会えて「運がいい」
ありがとうございました。
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